Hmmm tooo complicated na, while solving the complex problems in mathematics our sir used to tell... "Though the problems with life can never be solved, thank god at least we can solve mathematical problem." Why it becomes complicated?? and sure not complicated for very very few or for none. Why this happens? why from our childhood we see that the complexity goes on and on. Almost everyone has the feeling that i wish i get my childhood. As we get maturity and understanding in our life's complexity raises up to its steep. Just as the expectation of our project managers ha ha ha , right? U will be getting hold on one concept that he expects u know the other also. So in other words life is just like a project manager. Never ending expectations!!!
But what can we do to get into track. I think the complications develop because one persons view will not be same as the other. Like for example its all about looking at the half filled glass and two fighting for it , as one says "its half filled" and the other says "its half empty" ? but duffers doesn't know both are right.
This is what happens in our life .Every one want all others to look the world as he himself luks the world. Without knowing that what others see the world is also the world. They are also right. Why people never understand that 2 things at a time can be right. He is right that doesn't mean that the other person is always wrong.Why not agree with others view. But this view thing can be over come by having a slight adaptation and understanding.
But one more thing that tackles out here is that "How practical the person is?" or "How emotional the person is?". These qualities build in the lot of difference of opinion. But the maturity here is to think that Neither being practical is wrong and nor being emotional is wrong. What matters is balance is of both. The thing to be understood is emotional person should not be hurt and the practical person should not be made cumbersome with emotions. This is bit complicated but what matters is understanding between both.
This is for the person who think they are practical, when some one come s and ask s for a favour, according to your personality, if your are not in a state to help it goes as "No i am busy , i cant now". Trust me there is nothing wrong in your reply. But what impact will it have on the person next to you, if he is emotional kind of a guy. It pinches him right? The kind of depressed feeling develops within him which may make him not to return to you. So you need to reply the same thing but in a different manner as "oh ok, this is the issue. But due to circumstances i am busy now. So will get back to you after half an hour." See what impression it leaves on the person next to you. After half an hour you go and help or no that doesn't matter. But the opposite person will go back with the satisfied feeling. So that he will return to you for sure.
For the emotional persons being practical at certain times is also important. When somebody comes and asks you can you join me for shopping? but you have already some other plans. But as you are emotional you are too gud at heart. So your heart will never allow you to say no. so you may reply saying "ok will join you". and when the time comes you will be busy with the other stuff. But the other person will be waiting for you right? and ultimately his plan will be destroyed just because of you. So when such times come ,there is nothing wrong in saying "Sorry, i already have some plans". Its not a sin to say no.
So it all goes as you manage with practicality and emotion.No body is perfect in knowing when knowing when to be practical and when to be emotional. Once u initiate it goes on and life itself will fine tune you with this skill.
But what can we do to get into track. I think the complications develop because one persons view will not be same as the other. Like for example its all about looking at the half filled glass and two fighting for it , as one says "its half filled" and the other says "its half empty" ? but duffers doesn't know both are right.
This is what happens in our life .Every one want all others to look the world as he himself luks the world. Without knowing that what others see the world is also the world. They are also right. Why people never understand that 2 things at a time can be right. He is right that doesn't mean that the other person is always wrong.Why not agree with others view. But this view thing can be over come by having a slight adaptation and understanding.
But one more thing that tackles out here is that "How practical the person is?" or "How emotional the person is?". These qualities build in the lot of difference of opinion. But the maturity here is to think that Neither being practical is wrong and nor being emotional is wrong. What matters is balance is of both. The thing to be understood is emotional person should not be hurt and the practical person should not be made cumbersome with emotions. This is bit complicated but what matters is understanding between both.
This is for the person who think they are practical, when some one come s and ask s for a favour, according to your personality, if your are not in a state to help it goes as "No i am busy , i cant now". Trust me there is nothing wrong in your reply. But what impact will it have on the person next to you, if he is emotional kind of a guy. It pinches him right? The kind of depressed feeling develops within him which may make him not to return to you. So you need to reply the same thing but in a different manner as "oh ok, this is the issue. But due to circumstances i am busy now. So will get back to you after half an hour." See what impression it leaves on the person next to you. After half an hour you go and help or no that doesn't matter. But the opposite person will go back with the satisfied feeling. So that he will return to you for sure.
For the emotional persons being practical at certain times is also important. When somebody comes and asks you can you join me for shopping? but you have already some other plans. But as you are emotional you are too gud at heart. So your heart will never allow you to say no. so you may reply saying "ok will join you". and when the time comes you will be busy with the other stuff. But the other person will be waiting for you right? and ultimately his plan will be destroyed just because of you. So when such times come ,there is nothing wrong in saying "Sorry, i already have some plans". Its not a sin to say no.
So it all goes as you manage with practicality and emotion.No body is perfect in knowing when knowing when to be practical and when to be emotional. Once u initiate it goes on and life itself will fine tune you with this skill.
