Are you being you!

  After a long time my pen just went this way.....They say blowing off other's candle doesn't make our candle to glow more brighter. When such is the case why we are not concentrating on our own candle to make it glow brighter. Thinking only of you makes you selfish, but thinking of you never makes you so.But when you slightly tilt your view on life, its all about keeping you as you.Many circumstances that come in your life  give a try to change you, it may either be to  impress others or you may be forced to change, when you are under the control of somebody s favors. Under both the cases you will not be free enough to be your
self and we give up our inside we. So  what ever be the situation we never owe our inner self to any body!
  Guys have you ever seen yourself when you be you. You look so beautiful to yourself.And there is no need of it to be accepted by others. you need to accept yourself.
 The most often cases which we come across is we say yes, when our inside we is jumping within our self and saying Noooo!. aah there we lost half of our breathe by saying yes and other half by doing it breathlessly.We just need to do simple things, ask yourself consciously , why am I doing it? will it make you feel guilty if you wont?is you within you accepting it?. Friends ultimately choice will be yours that you want to stay being yourself or you want to give away your power just to be acceptable in the eyes of others.
  I just came across a scene some days back, few 5 th grade students were discussing . One  said I have seen this movie and its good because so and so, but the other immediately took it up, hey I have already seen it , nothing in it. You all guys need to watch the the other movie. It awesome dude He expressed right from the costumes to the scenes in the movie...when every one left the group the thing that was running in their mind was to check out for the movie which other Guy had said about...
  Now friends apart from the speaking ability and dominance of the second student, please slightly look at the scene in the different angle. Wasn't the second student powerful because of inner himself.For his inside he being with himself ,he never thought of what opposite comments he will get by saying this is a good movie. Instead by expressing it He kind of created his view on the picture in other mind as well. Wasn't that really powerful. Now coming to the first student. He could have opposed the dominance of the second student by expressing his view on the movie he has seen. But with the dominance of the second student he came under a fear consciousness that may be nobody here likes it. Then and there itself he lost inner himself. Instead if he had tapped his back for seeing something different in that movie which other's couldn't see it and had expressed it then, the situation would have gone totally reversed.
  This is just a small scene of the student friends, like wise all such small situation were we partly start leaving our inner our self behind, altogether make our inner self loose totally.Though self pride & ego, and self esteem & dominance attitude have thin line between... self pride and self esteem are very beautiful things in life.Which really make life Beautiful. You will start seeing the beauty of life in small things which other can even wont think about...
   Just don't lead the life of other which society wants,Which ultimately dismisses happiness. The fulfillment comes from just living the life of you....
So just see that you are being you!

Relationship......

Relations, the fuel for engine called life, the breathe for live called life, the glucose for the system called life. And what not the relations cant be!!We all are very well aware that relations run on trust, but  trust develops only when time is given for the relations to develop as a relationship.In today's time ruled world, we ourselves getting time is a big deal , on top giving time to the relations is really a big deal!!! Recently heard a joke cumming which made me think of this concept. The  maid making a boy sleep, that he in between wakes up and asks, I have been seeing since few days the people cumming late night to our home. So the madeanswered oh! you saw them?! they are your parents!!!!!. this is the present world my friends. This was of the most important relation called parent and child.Apart from our by birth relations like mom,dad,uncle, aunt, granny ,grandpa, brother ,sister,husband ,wife, girl frnd,boy frnd.... there also happen to certain relations like neighbours, far friends, your house maids(don't you think with routine help you develop a relation with them) leave apart everything ,think of a relation with collègue who not at all related with your work, who never has time to talk with u, but every morning before occupying the cubicle gives you a energytic smile, even we have a kind of relation with them , isn't it???
  Yes we do! And trust me Friends these are the ones which make us live, only the thing is realisation comes very late! And these relations which we are forgetting to enjoy just because of time factor, have seamless energy intact in them, which even has the power  to make you fight to live. 

  Just went through an article by a well known breast cancer specialist, who says, at the start when she used to come across the women who had death at their next destiny used to give up living before the cancer has already caught up their breathe. Dr says as the human Psychology goes, once the person gets to know , that he has no more time,in his rest part of the  life he obviously does nothing but waits for the death, which makes him die more than thousand times before his actual death. This was the doctors study and decided to do something for this. the doctor started educating the people that there are the ones who are already like u, who already are facing it.She made the patients realise how important it was for them to get out of the home and meet people who are as them.She made the patients community and made them to exchange there words that what makes them reduce pain(Mentally and physically).Doctor in turn made them group on the social site. And insisted them to keep meeting daily and provoked them to educate the other patients who then after started including.And drastically doctor started seeing that the patients actually got so involved in their community work that they almost forgot that they will die and she started seeing that patients started living to their maximum periods.
   If this is the power of the relation, if they can make you forget your death, then when we being healthy, why not invest on our relations? See friends,, its a crucial thing to have a look on. Recently got to some ladies who are stressed because, their 1 year kid calls their maid mom , though these ladies being in front. No one can imagine what these ladies actually go through in these situation.Agree that these are not the days where mom can sit all the time with their children. But what can be done to come out of such things. Think guys think....I feel that though you cant give time for relations, at least you can opt giving realisation of your relation to the respective relatives. Cant we??? cant we just call your kids periodically and realise them that you are out to fetch them a chocolate each day, cant we just call our old age people  at their tablet time and ask them did they take it? Trust me ,after this weather they live longer or no but 100% they will aspire to live long.Because the feeling that somebody wants me to live, which will be born after your call, does all of its work on own.cant we just call our maids once in week and appreciate them?? cant you just call your partner before having lunch??? When we have already become robots attending 20-30 calls at minimun rate, I don't think the extra of 4-5 calls of 4-5 min a day will have adverse affect. What say guys?? This may appear silly, but brings in lot of difference.
  I just want to tell that in this time ruled world, if you cant invest time on relations, at least give the realisation to all your relations that you are not able to spend time, but you owe them all your trust, concern , care and love. Just a realisation frnds. I don't mean it has to be call always,a well timely gift, a well timely planned meet of 5 mins will also do. So just see that you make all your relatives of any order realise that you owe a relation with them.

Does pain intacts the beauty of painlessness?......

              Lets depict some optimisation towards problem!.A very old fashioned dialogue, but would still like to use it, "No Hero without a Villan","No achievement without a hurdle","No Light of the next day until the sun rise every morning". Though in above these the phrases(Hero,Villan. Achievement,hurdle. Day,night.) all are the opposites,but imagine one to happen/be without the other. Is it possible?. Never!!. The amount at which the rudeness, badness in short the gundagiri of the villan is increased, the herogiri of the hero increases at the same level.Without the sun s travel through the other part of the earth, the still half part of the earth cant see the sun rise.So the harder parts like(Villan, night) have to do with the rarer parts like (Hero, Day).So the only thought I want to bring out here is ,If goodness is brought out because of toughness and rudeness or badness, then why fear or run away from these toughness(Problems). Why not given them a chance so that the goodness sprouts out of it, with the same intensity.
    Once there was a small water pond where all the water creatures like fish, crab, small insects, turtle and some of the plank tons lived happily.The days started passing happily.One fine day the small fish was on top of the water layer, where it heard some fishermen talking that they will catch all the creatures from here.It got panic, and went in. It within no time, went to its brother and told the story. So these two fishes decided to stay deep inside the pond without the any moments,so that they become unnoticed by the fishermen. And the next day morning as they expected, the fishermen came and they started catching the creatures. Fishermen stayed till they thought that the whole pond was empty. And carried all the creatures with them. Once they left, these two fishes came out sailing up. They both started jumping and dancing inside the pond that they are the "king of the pond now", there is no threat to their life at all. And the days passed, one day one of the fish at the top and again heard a group pf fisherman talking "It was good that we transferred all the creatures from here to river outside the city because of the upcoming drought,else they all would have given up already!" Hearing this the fish swam in and out of the little water and informed the other same.But nobody could help them out.Two days they tried hard that they should be visible to the passer fisherman, but they couldn't and ultimately ended up giving their lives.
  The thing to be dragged from the story is these two fishes would have faced it! instead hiding right? If they would have done this, they would have also been living happily inside the river.
  The only thing I want to tell is ,"Problems are the knock for good fortune."  So with what spirit you fight with the problem, so will you be able to enjoy the achievement of you wining it out.Facing the problem will half solve the problem.So when ever the problem knocks,just think this, "though the way you are going to travel is hard,but making it win ---
        ----- is going to win your life.
      ------is going to everytime increase the level of your fighting spirit by many marks.
             The day when you see others in problem, and  start saying "I missed it!", instead of saying "Thank god! I escaped".Mark that particular day, because that day is the day when a true fighter is born in you.
              But never forget to celebrate your win on the smallest and smallest problems, because these moments are the one which are actually to be lived.So when problem knocks, just remember a big blast celebration is awaiting, just as we celebrate our Birthdays even though we have passed a year of life back or just as the celebration of the
retirement day, even though its because your aged and need rest. The celebrations in these moments lies life frnds!
     
So in precise,just give the problem a tight big hug with all your efforts till the problem loses all its strength and bows in front of you, giving a hug  inturn!!
                   "Happy Problem Solving!!!!!!!!!"

If Humans, where's Humanity?

what pleasure we feel when we compare ourselves to other creatures, we can think, we are civilised, Wow! thaïs great isn't it? But Are we worth it? are we completely on with our think ability.....
 

Some times I think, it would have been better if god would have made us be on the desert,and then would have bought us back to Earth, then at least we would have understood the importance of the person on the side of you. Who talks with you, who makes your presence identified! this not only includes your friends, family and god.But also the rest ones!

check yourself ! How many people do you love other that your friend and family? 2, 10, 20?????? count is on fingers right? is this humanity? Loving their family even  the animals do. Whats difference does it makes between us and them. Need to think of this guys.

Love not only means share their happiness and sorrows. But its also  the pleasure of seeing of  the other persons with their virtues! which  rarely or never happens...
Seen people saying "I hate her/him" , "His/her presence irritates" But tell me , is anybody so perfect to present themselves in a sophisticated and adorable manner  every time and anywhere! Every one is equipped with faults and virtues. But this doesn't mean you start loving their faults and ignore their virtues.I just want to  stress on Identifying a person. you are going to identify a person by his/her faults or hi/her virtues, is completely on you!!!! Just think this ones and implement, you start 
seeing the world of love!

 But my motto of writing this blog is something else, Love, as followed above has this tremendous energy of uniting the world into single soul, then I cannot understand why love is given a tag of sensitiveness,softness, weakness? And have seen people seeing you as an weak person when you start seeing everybody with their virtues.I  really feel pity on the people who sees love as a weakness, who couldn't understand the strength of love. When you start looking at the others with this love, in turn
you start getting the same vibes and your world automatically turns lovable! 

 Hers the incident to change the thinking of the people who think it love as a weakness-
In a family of four/five brothers there was one who used to see people with this love but others didn't, all used to stay happily, this guy never thought of his own needs, he went on supporting all the brothers and there family with a selfless desire.And the day was not far when he was not able to support his own family,and his brothers were busy
with their own life. He ended up in nothing. The day soon came when he had to beg for a single day meal.He struggled a lot for his survival and the days went on... .
And it was because of this love he survived later.

In this story you can see the person who followed the kind of the love which I was talking, had a hard days. And obvious that you also scold this love character  as he could have thought of his life for a single a day at least. so that he could earn few nice days in the later life.Its quite obvious of everybody blaming him.

But I would like to say, though he came on street he won his life, in fact he won his life long back when he looked everyone with their virtue and held them high, and when the turn of the others brothers came, they failed, in fact they failed in a very low grade.The only thing he needed that time was their fellow brothers love ,if they would have done it, he would have held them still high to the rest of life. For every blames this love character, but I say He won It big time! 

If this love character had so much of strength of holding all united together, just imagine if he gets the love back in turn, he withstands the tremendous amount of  energy of uniting the whole world into a single soul.- Just think......


This World is ours, just not make it barren, lets make it Lovable!

Belief

Faith/Belief/Trust all go hand in hand. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of thing s not seen. All do have faith in many things, but very few will be successful in making their faith, the belief of others. Though Galileo got the credit for experimentally proving earth at centre, it was already Copernicus who found and told. But unfortunately he couldn't make others believe it. Radio and TV signals existed long before in the air, but people believed it only when Bayed fetched them successfully in TV. The same happens every year with the students in our country. Their whole year performance is judged only on the basis of one year end exam. Which is very gud test for Memory examination rather than for  a knowledge test. The one who has writing and dragging skills can easily beat this up(by this i wont mean all the first comers are because of their writing and dragging skills. ) Here the knowledge guys  who couldn't make for the place is suppressed a lot.How result oriented WE!!!!!

ok, lets come to our topic, so when it comes to believing in the things like signals, planets and knowledge no body believes them without proof. But when  it comes to God every body does it without a question? right? or may be they feel him some or the other way...?????? When we talk about god, we come across three kind of people- The one group where people believe in god , the other who doesn't believe on the god and last the interesting ones, the one who believe in god being within themselves and every other and everywhere.

The one who not believe in god have got nothing to tell you all,but can sure tell them that the day will come when you will start believing in god.And to the other , that who believe in god, don't make your god just stay in your Pooja house. God doesn't want that purity only in that one signal room, he wants to see

that purity within you, around you, every where!!!!! carry him with you all along ,as a strong positive vibe, as a strong belief , that what ever you do, what ever you talk, what ever you feel even god does with you. So which always keeps you moving on the positive path, no matter what. Before lying, before doing unfair, before doing cruelty look at the god residing in others, around you, within you , who is also as pure as your god in pooja house or temples. This doesn't mean that you should not worship god in temples, I think its made to increase the positiveness around. To strengthen in you the feeling that god is there. And trust me the contentment, the power,the positiveness, the strength you get after praying and worshiping can never be replaced by anything. The only thing is don't let it be in the temples, carry it within you,carry in your breathe. Then see how everything around changes. Through this I don't mean that if somebody comes to  kill you , stay ideal and make him kill you. Be practical in sense and carry the strength of god with you. Carry this strength in your gud times in such a way that in your worst times when nobody is there with you to face it ,this is the only strength  which is going to build in the  strength  to fight worst time.

In our childhood days hope everybody had heard this story, listening everybody does but inculcating very few.

There lived a very intelligent minister in the Akbar s court named Birbal. He was concerned for each and every moves to be done in the Akbar s leadership. To test the intelligence among the ministers, Akbar gave every body a task. A very awful task. He gave everybody a fruit and asked all of his ministers to eat the fruit in such a way that nobody sees you eating it. All the minister got into the thinking that, where shall I go and eat so that I will be awarded as intelligent. Everybody did it and as usual all the minister gathered in the court for their ministry. And Akbar came to the session, and started asking for  where did they go and eat. Then the answers started

flowing like,I ate on the mountain top so that nobody sees me. One said I ate it inside the water. The other said I closed the room door made it dark and ate and many answers flowed out. In the mean time Birbal also joined the court. But the bad thing was he had the same fruit in his hand. He came with the fruit and stood in front of Akbar with his head down. All the ministers started laughing at him. See Akbar you used to praise him as the most intelligent one in the court. Saw the results now???

Akbar made all the ministers silent and asked Birbal, what happened Birbal?? Why didn't you eat the fruit??? Then Birbal said, Your Highness, I couldn't found the place on this earth where nobody can see you. As I have been taught very earlier that- "God is Everywhere". That moment Akbar raising his Mustache said-This is Birbal.

Short one but got lot--

 

Aspirations

Aspirations!!! what liveliness this word intact right?!!!! have seen many of us using dreams , goals, and aspirations interchangeably. But i feel like  as though their core meaning is  being murderd. I feel its worth knowing the meaning of these words individually, not just to stop the murdering of their core meaning with our incorrect usage, but also to make ourselves aware of, Are we dreaming, Are we aspiring or Are we setting goals???? Among these 3 the initiator role is played by "Dreams" ,a very magical thing right? Dono how it initiates from where it initiates but still the dreams come when u asleep and wake u up with a wish. But the thing is dreams come to every body, but very few will learn/ make themselves to live dreams.The dream is a goal without legs. Getting those goals the legs and having them to move towards,is all going to a matter of luck/u?? u need to decide.

 To transform your dreams to goals you need to clarify it, give them the details so that you can see it, feel it, live it. Make yourself know what kind of feeling you are going to have after reaching there, so that you totally dissolve in to it. Humans are by default hopeful creatures we think about the future as though it will occur for us with absolute certainty and that makes it hard to imagine death as the motivation of life. Why do we do things that we do everyday? Whats our purpose? Am i acting honestly for my dreams and aspirations? but wait a minute!!! our purpose????? anybody is going to come and tell us that this is your purpose? wait and discover your purpose.very late we realise that purpose is something we have to create for ourselves.

 Here s one live example from Mrs Susan Boyle, who dreamt of singing infront of large crowd and she did it at the age of 47 with Style!!!, with audience applauding,cheering. With the viewers from whole globe.

How many times you were offered for the dream, but certainly will be followed by the conversation like-"Do you think at my age I can do this?" or am I too old for it?!

or "If I was of your age would have done it?" or many more excuses like this...............

You can fill the pages with excuses. But why Mrs Boyle didn't do it?

She didn't and did it Big Time!!!

There is no difference between you , me and Mrs Boyle. We all are humans, so we can try and try again

Its was Thomas Edison who rightly said-"I did not fail,because every attempt I got rid of, took me another step forward"- If you fail, its wonderful!! It means you have one more step towards Success.

So also Mrs Boyle, god knows after how many failures, success knocked her doors.

Always the approach shouldn't be:

"If I could, I would" but "If I would, I could"

Just dare to try-

Just saw on Face book, want to share it here too, by Chetan Bhagat-

I see guys spending weeks, months trying to make a girl happy.

I see girls endlessly waiting for their guys to calls

Is that all your life all about? For your lover to validate? or to make the relationship work?

Instead why not focus on yourself, working on goals, learning something, being a positive person, helping others.

That will boost your self esteem far more than any lover ever could.

Gratitude

Friends, have you ever questioned yourself  "What life owes u??" or instead "what somebody or someone owes u in your life??" Guess no!!!!! but its time for that... i know its obvious that all our minds are filled with loads and loads of demands..... for ex: Hey its my life, want it to be fulling with frnds, family. Want my frnds to react or be the way, i want them to be.... or something like he/she is my girl/boy  why cant he do it for me, he has to or he will kind of things isn't it?? its quite human to get all this as answer..... but my question is, is it written somewhere that , if god has given u birth then he has to make it fulfilling and as u want?? or is this written some where that: he/she is my girlfriend/boyfriend, my fourth coming husband/wife he owes his/her life all to me?? is it?? This is what takes us all away from our happiness. And trust me Gratitude is what we all need.... Instead of focusing on what life has not given us, lets focus on what we have got in life  and

be thankful for it. Seriously, no where its written that we have to get this, but still we have got so much right, so what we have got is really a gift, rather a precious gift.

     Gratitude is the recognition within one, that "Life has nothing to give us, between what we get is a precious gift."

   Once upon a time there lived a blind man, who used to beg daily for his livelihood. One day he sat on the most crowded street and began as usual with his routine. Hemade a board with a signature saying "I am blind." and infornt of the board he kept the hat, so that people can place their pennies into it. The day started so, there was no collection at all from morning. Then suddenly a man came and dropped in the coin. And he also did one more thing, he took the board changed the signature which the blind guy was unaware of and went off. Then within an hour the people started dropping the coins, and the blind man was very happy. After 2-3 hours the same first man returned. And he was very happy seeing the hat of the blind. But blind recognising the footsteps of the man asked him, what did you change the signature to?? The man said "The same thing what you said but in a different manner." I just changed it to "The day is beautiful , But I am Blind".

The second signature has bought in the feeling within people that "I am lucky enough to see this beautiful day." So whatever thing you get from anybody or anything do respect and value them instead of taking them granted.

This gratitude can make you stay happier, can form the positiveness around you, It even has the power which will make you see the good things even in the unpleasant situations happening with you. So the secret of happiness is we need a sharp lean towards Gratitude. For that we just need to do some things like...

1. Appreciate for what u have

2. Give thanks

3. Keep smiling

4. Have fun

Once you become oriented toward looking for things to be grateful for, you will find that you begin to appreciate simple pleasures and things that you previously took for granted. Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want, but an all-the-time gratitude