Being Optimistic........

Optimistic, very complicated word right?? But has the power of making your life take a smart U turn. For which the thing to be done is its implementation. Optimist ism is not of whats happening in your life buts its all about what can happen in your life. Its all about a half filled glass and not about half empty glass.Its of you being a cause and not being a effect. Its not about  the darkness in the tunnel but its all about light at the end of tunnel. The pessimist always think of what worst can happen and spend all of the energy in negative things instead of shifting the focus on what good can happen which in turn will make miss opportunity, neglect the problems to be solved and make u fail to take actions at right time. Ideally speaking nobody is idol in being optimistic and nobody is born optimistic, its all of developing within you an optimistic person.
       So its the right time to give thought on why we all lean more towards pessimism. My research says there may be two things---------
1. Either your mates, whether it may be parents,fiends, brother, sister any one who always make you do think in that direction.
2. your past history
      You can over come from first thing, but for that identification of that element is very important and then after hear for them but never listen. I don't mean your mates are misguiding you but it happens because of the habitual gaps.
     Second thing is,the past negative experiences would have left never heeling mark on your life, which always come into picture in every situation and its quite human. So its high time to think that all times are not same. Just because you have experienced pain in past it doesn't mean what starts badly must end up bad.
     Once there was a German badminton player it seems, i too exactly don't remember his name. A very confident,successful, inspirational player counted in tops. He was swinging in melody of peace,With success in one hand and peaceful life in other. Days passed on and at last he had a black day of his life, he got a positive result for his cancer tests. The moment was just like pulling the earth beneath his legs. He was smashed like anything.But within the splash of time he was back with the same confidence knowing that the time left with him was hardly a year.And in one of his interview when symphatized by journalist telling "God wouldn't have done this to u" and his only response was "whenever i have held my trophies in hand, have never asked god "why trophy only for me??" so today have no right to ask "why Cancer only for me??"".Hmmm great man right?? He was not great by birth, he was not that great as badminton player but he is great by his great response and his great attitude. This is Optimist ism.
      As this is the talk on being optimistic, i wont be doing judgement to the topic if i wont remember my grandpa here. He was very bold ,strong and a very gud leader within himself.One day unfortunately even he was detected with cancer, trust me when people came to see him at the hospital for first time in guilt, he has made them walk back laughing. And after this he was suggested a surgery. And he was taken to one of the top hospital in mumbai only with my dad,and atlast it was a day of surgery, there was Q for surgery. He was in third turn to get operated, Before him was a lady, who was very sturdy and walking healthy in front of the operation theatre for her turn. Her turn came and was taken in and within an hour her dead body was out. My dad trembled out in sweat (He still keeps on remembering this), he felt like taking my grannpa and running out. When he said the same to grandpa he laughed and went in, got operated and then after survived for 7 long years.Though it was his boldness which took him in, it is optimist ism within him which made him survive for 7 long years. So this post is dedicated to him.
     The only thing i want to tell is when u start feeling down about future, remember life is too short,and pessimism broods nothing other than waste of time. I don't tell u think that always gud vl happen so that others take advantage of u but instead be a rational optimist. Take gud with bad. Hope for best but be prepared for worst.
    

Frndship

               The only relation which we choose(not god made), the only relation found in every other relation. Which starts just with the simple hiii and ends with zero selfishness. Frnd!!!! the only one with whom u can share everything which sometimes even u cannot with your parents, the only one to enjoy icecream infront of u when ur on sick bed, the only one who says "where s the treat" when u say "i am going to die" . But still the first to hold hand when walking alone in crowd, the only one on whom u can belive closing your eyes.  So sometimes i feel we people have beaten up god in choosing and making relations wont u??
              The things like treats, b'day parties, b'day bumbs, gossips, first show movies with popcrons, silly fights with attitude for flawless things, silly cries with loud laughters, tours and trips contribute a lot to keep it lively.Feels great right when we contribute as somebodys frnd,or even when we have frnd.
              Know these days frnds list will be increasing day by day. we should see in facebook, omg!!!! the number tho goes beyond 1000........... But tell me  seriously frnds, how many frnds do u have so that u can put hand on your heart and tell yourself proudly that"This is my frnd"??? if in your answer you have a single person also, then trust me frndz u have lived your life. But my frndz on other side whose answer is zero, this is dedicated u all, and belive me i am one among ur team. And this idea kicked in me while watching the climax of "3 iditos", seeing farhan and raju kicking aamir at last..... really bought a feeling in me "wish if i had a frnd like this....."
             So its right time to think, what and where is it going wrong. Are we so bad and others are too gud, or is it vice versa that we are too gud and others are too bad.Ha is it so?? No its not the thing.
             Once there was a geograhy class going on in first standard.First day first lesson on geography,as usual the world map was on board. All students very egarly staring at the board. Mam introduced all the parts as much a she can. And later it was time to end the class. Before ending she announced that they are going have puzzle test tomorrow at same time on what they have studied. All students went home, and tried their best to remember the outline of the world atleast.(u people dont get panic as they are first standard students they did it, later when they reach college they did the same as us). Hmmm next day morning asusual the class started,teacher came in and it was now puzzle time. She gave each student a box with broken pieces of paper.Told them they have pieces of world map and start rearranging. All very enthusiatically started, but everybody ended in nothing, all started luking at each other with mum faces. Mam was still quite. But something happend, the paper pieces of a student flew away bcoz of air, he went and started collecting them, while collecting he observed that there were some pictures of the boady parts of the man at the back side of the pieces. He started arranging them and brought out a man out of those pieces. And when he turned out the arranged pieces upside down, It was very correctly arranged world map. He was happy like anything.Now the mam interrupted, "see students this was not only a puzzle but want to teach u basic lesson, can anybody tell what did u learn??". No body answered... And the moral of the story was "IF U ARE PERFECT, WORLD IS PERFECT" as simple as that
           So if u are good world is good, if u are bad world is bad.
Never expect your frnd to be same as you bcoz its as gud as expecting to hold your frnds right hand in your right hand and walking together which is never possible.
Never expect your frnd to be Mr/Miss perfect, instead make him/her Mr/Miss perfect.
          Naturally or basically your frnd may not be of your type, his likes may be your dislikes, but nothing worng in having him as frnd. Have them as a frnd, trust them once, they will trust you forever.But always have a frnd in such way who proudly says "he/she is dam boring and yuky but still she is my frnd" i mean who accepts u along with your weakness and  strength.
         One more thing to strengthen the life of ur frndship, always share your frnds strength infront of others but weakness only with that individual frnd.
Accept the way you are,love  yourself for whatever you are and most importantly accept your frnds the way they are, and have frnds forever..................

Miracle of Encouragement

          Encouragement!!! what miracle it can do?? A lot my friends.Skill without encouragement is like plant without water.Encouragement can make your skill propell with great thrust and reach u out beyond boundaries.Let me begin with a simple thing, imagine school days probability problem or the problem on statistics(They really troubled a lot na... ...) but still if u solve a problem and the teacher gives pat on your back just saying "well done",belive me,it has the power of making probability
and statistics as your favourite subject. I dunno how many how many of u agree....Now why this happens or how this happens is the question. The pat that teacher gave you makes many things like-
*It creates a confidence in u that you know something(not much) about the subject.Once u gain the belief that u know something, more than half of the problem is solved.
* The confidence that i was the one who answered among whole class intacts tremendous Energy!!!!!!!
*It creates a kind of rep in class that,when the teacher gives next problem, even he will be egarly waiting at u,that u will do it.And to stay at his expectations you will
 definately do it.
        Lets come out of the school days,lets luk at the facebook, on the single post we make,we open the same post or the scrap or the snap thousand times to track the record of the likes and the comments.Is it we do that simply?God only knows how many have become the designer,the writer,the photographer just bcoz of the likes and comments in the facebook .if this is the case why the hell we take so much of time to appreciate others. The only thing  want to tell is always be the first to
appreciate others and automatically you will be appreciated at right times.It not even takes the single penny just to say-"nice dress ","gud handwritting","luking gud", "well done","keep it up"..................These appear silly but they do lot.
        In my neighbour i had a small Lkg  girl.she was dumb like anything that u cant imagine.But one day i heard her dad telling to her while taking her studies"we all spell it as "A(ye) car" but you spell it as "A(a) car" and this is most the positive thing in u.And today i am seeing that girl as the editor
in the very renouned company(And she remembers her dad's words as the words for her success).There is no limit to the level you can go down to encourage others.
        So wether it may be sharuk  or the common lay man everybody needs encouragement in whatever they do.... Shaan and sunidhi got such huge positive response for their first albums now noboby can hold them.There are countless people who have come up without any encouragement.But the thing to understand is encouragement acts like a catalyst in the chemical solution called life.It accelerates the speed of you going into the success.So always be the first to encourage others and also first to take the encouragement from others and watch for the Miracle within u.