Aspirations

Aspirations!!! what liveliness this word intact right?!!!! have seen many of us using dreams , goals, and aspirations interchangeably. But i feel like  as though their core meaning is  being murderd. I feel its worth knowing the meaning of these words individually, not just to stop the murdering of their core meaning with our incorrect usage, but also to make ourselves aware of, Are we dreaming, Are we aspiring or Are we setting goals???? Among these 3 the initiator role is played by "Dreams" ,a very magical thing right? Dono how it initiates from where it initiates but still the dreams come when u asleep and wake u up with a wish. But the thing is dreams come to every body, but very few will learn/ make themselves to live dreams.The dream is a goal without legs. Getting those goals the legs and having them to move towards,is all going to a matter of luck/u?? u need to decide.

 To transform your dreams to goals you need to clarify it, give them the details so that you can see it, feel it, live it. Make yourself know what kind of feeling you are going to have after reaching there, so that you totally dissolve in to it. Humans are by default hopeful creatures we think about the future as though it will occur for us with absolute certainty and that makes it hard to imagine death as the motivation of life. Why do we do things that we do everyday? Whats our purpose? Am i acting honestly for my dreams and aspirations? but wait a minute!!! our purpose????? anybody is going to come and tell us that this is your purpose? wait and discover your purpose.very late we realise that purpose is something we have to create for ourselves.

 Here s one live example from Mrs Susan Boyle, who dreamt of singing infront of large crowd and she did it at the age of 47 with Style!!!, with audience applauding,cheering. With the viewers from whole globe.

How many times you were offered for the dream, but certainly will be followed by the conversation like-"Do you think at my age I can do this?" or am I too old for it?!

or "If I was of your age would have done it?" or many more excuses like this...............

You can fill the pages with excuses. But why Mrs Boyle didn't do it?

She didn't and did it Big Time!!!

There is no difference between you , me and Mrs Boyle. We all are humans, so we can try and try again

Its was Thomas Edison who rightly said-"I did not fail,because every attempt I got rid of, took me another step forward"- If you fail, its wonderful!! It means you have one more step towards Success.

So also Mrs Boyle, god knows after how many failures, success knocked her doors.

Always the approach shouldn't be:

"If I could, I would" but "If I would, I could"

Just dare to try-

Just saw on Face book, want to share it here too, by Chetan Bhagat-

I see guys spending weeks, months trying to make a girl happy.

I see girls endlessly waiting for their guys to calls

Is that all your life all about? For your lover to validate? or to make the relationship work?

Instead why not focus on yourself, working on goals, learning something, being a positive person, helping others.

That will boost your self esteem far more than any lover ever could.

Gratitude

Friends, have you ever questioned yourself  "What life owes u??" or instead "what somebody or someone owes u in your life??" Guess no!!!!! but its time for that... i know its obvious that all our minds are filled with loads and loads of demands..... for ex: Hey its my life, want it to be fulling with frnds, family. Want my frnds to react or be the way, i want them to be.... or something like he/she is my girl/boy  why cant he do it for me, he has to or he will kind of things isn't it?? its quite human to get all this as answer..... but my question is, is it written somewhere that , if god has given u birth then he has to make it fulfilling and as u want?? or is this written some where that: he/she is my girlfriend/boyfriend, my fourth coming husband/wife he owes his/her life all to me?? is it?? This is what takes us all away from our happiness. And trust me Gratitude is what we all need.... Instead of focusing on what life has not given us, lets focus on what we have got in life  and

be thankful for it. Seriously, no where its written that we have to get this, but still we have got so much right, so what we have got is really a gift, rather a precious gift.

     Gratitude is the recognition within one, that "Life has nothing to give us, between what we get is a precious gift."

   Once upon a time there lived a blind man, who used to beg daily for his livelihood. One day he sat on the most crowded street and began as usual with his routine. Hemade a board with a signature saying "I am blind." and infornt of the board he kept the hat, so that people can place their pennies into it. The day started so, there was no collection at all from morning. Then suddenly a man came and dropped in the coin. And he also did one more thing, he took the board changed the signature which the blind guy was unaware of and went off. Then within an hour the people started dropping the coins, and the blind man was very happy. After 2-3 hours the same first man returned. And he was very happy seeing the hat of the blind. But blind recognising the footsteps of the man asked him, what did you change the signature to?? The man said "The same thing what you said but in a different manner." I just changed it to "The day is beautiful , But I am Blind".

The second signature has bought in the feeling within people that "I am lucky enough to see this beautiful day." So whatever thing you get from anybody or anything do respect and value them instead of taking them granted.

This gratitude can make you stay happier, can form the positiveness around you, It even has the power which will make you see the good things even in the unpleasant situations happening with you. So the secret of happiness is we need a sharp lean towards Gratitude. For that we just need to do some things like...

1. Appreciate for what u have

2. Give thanks

3. Keep smiling

4. Have fun

Once you become oriented toward looking for things to be grateful for, you will find that you begin to appreciate simple pleasures and things that you previously took for granted. Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want, but an all-the-time gratitude

Perseverance

Everybody wants to be happy in life. But as you know nothing is free in this word except the air we breathe, dunno from when will even air be charged. So its often that even happiness is not free. Need to strive for it, though what ever may be the thing in which happiness lies. Weather it may be buying a Bungalow or buying a simple dress. Weather it may be in killing a person or troubling the person. U need a stratergy and full determined execution. This is all fine but , as our human nature goes , Though we will be planning for the sky, we get easily satisfied with the mountain top from where the sky is very near isn't?? But why? was the mountain top our happiness or our aim? No, it was the sky and has to be sky. In aiming something ,the troubles are obvious and most fortunate just as, No Hero without a villain. Though the hard fact ,its a fact!!! How fast one realises this, it makes the one that strong. And coming to the topic, the once continuance of being into the aim(happiness) though what ever may be the strength and  the no  of times it keeps attacking. Very hard word right?? but without which the joy of success(happiness) is truly a dream.

    In simple words the perseverance is the once to get persistence to the forceful flow of the trouble. The best thing that you can visualise is the forceful water flow against the mud. Many particles of the mud flow off due to the force of water but  very few make themselves to stay intact against the water. And as you all know the Spiders are always known for their perseverance. Though their net are always spoilt because of many reasons , they never give up fighting for their web till their last breathe.

    Once there were two frogs hopping back happily after their tummy full dinner, while coming so in the dark they accidentally fell off in the bucket of milk. The bucket was almost three fourth filled with milk. The movement they fell in to the bucket they got scared. They tried to come out of the bucket by jumping , they used to raise to a certain limit , slipped at the bucket edge and get drown into the bottom. They both did it thrice and got tried of it. One became too low at it conscious and gave up the spirit. But the other kept on trying to jump, it used to get tried, stop for few minutes and then again start, it kept on doing it for many times. The other one started laughing at this frog saying "Hey!!! any how we are going to die . So why struggling, at least while dying we can die peacefully" so rest. But the other frog didn't listen it went on doing and as the earlier frog said this frog lost its conscious and it got drown in the bucket but after 5 minutes when it came into conscious it saw that both were floating on top because as the frog kept on jumping up and down the milk has clinched into curd and both the frog got lifted up and they happily jumped out of the bucket. Imagine if this frog also would have thought as the other. Both would have lost their life. This what happens friends. Though your friends may laugh at your donkey work but the perseverance you undergo is always counted and it never goes in vain.

   I Had heard this from our sir, that he had a friend same as the frog in the above case. He used to take all the responsibility on his shoulders in what ever be the task. wile planning a picnic all used to just move in and enjoy right from their lodging to boarding all  used to be on his head it seems and all his friends used to laugh at him, weather it may be picnic or any event in the college. And the same continued. When he entered the corporate life there also he started handling his job very well as well as he used to take the burden of his manager also and make them sorted out. And his this perseverance was the only reason for he becoming the manager just within 4 years where as his friends took almost the double time as he.

Life-a 50-50 chaska maska of emotions and practicality

              Hmmm tooo complicated na, while solving the complex problems in mathematics our sir used to tell... "Though the problems with life can never be solved, thank god at least we can solve mathematical problem." Why it becomes complicated?? and sure not complicated for very very few or for none. Why this happens? why from our childhood we see that the complexity goes on and on. Almost everyone has the feeling that i wish i get my childhood. As we get maturity and understanding in our life's complexity raises up to its steep. Just as the expectation of our project managers ha ha ha , right? U will be getting hold on one concept that he expects u know the other also. So in other words life is just like a project manager. Never ending expectations!!!
           But what can we do to get into track. I think the complications develop because one persons view will not be same as the other. Like for example its all about looking at the half filled glass and two fighting for it , as one says "its half filled" and the other says "its half empty" ? but duffers doesn't know both are right.
This is what happens in our life .Every one want all others to look the world as he himself luks the world. Without knowing that what others see the world is also the world. They are also right. Why people never understand that 2 things at a time can be right. He is right that doesn't mean that the other person is always wrong.Why not agree with others view. But this view thing can be over come by having a slight  adaptation and understanding.
But one more thing that tackles out here is that "How practical the person is?" or "How emotional the person is?". These qualities build in the lot of difference of opinion. But the maturity here is to think that Neither being practical is  wrong and nor being emotional is wrong. What matters is balance is of both. The thing to be understood is  emotional person should not be hurt and the practical person should not be made cumbersome with emotions. This is bit complicated but what matters is understanding between both.
             This is for the person who think they are practical, when some one come s and ask s for a favour, according to your personality, if your are not in a state to help it goes as "No i am busy , i cant now". Trust me there is nothing wrong in your reply. But what impact will it have on the person next to you, if he is emotional kind of a guy. It pinches him right? The kind of depressed feeling develops within him which may make him not to return to you. So you need to reply the same thing but in a different manner  as "oh ok, this is the issue. But due to circumstances i am busy now. So will get back to you after half an hour." See what impression it leaves on the person next to you. After half an hour you go and help or no that doesn't matter. But the opposite person will go back with the satisfied feeling. So that he will return to you for sure.
                For the emotional persons being practical at certain times is also important. When somebody comes and asks you can you join me for shopping? but you have already some other plans. But as you are emotional you are too gud at heart. So your heart will never allow you to say no. so you may reply saying "ok will join you". and when the time comes you will be busy with the other stuff. But the other person will be waiting for you right? and ultimately his plan will be destroyed just because of you. So when such times come ,there is nothing wrong in saying "Sorry, i already have some plans". Its not a sin to say no.
           So it all goes as you manage with practicality and emotion.No body is perfect in knowing when knowing when to be practical and when to be emotional. Once u initiate it goes on and life itself will fine tune you with this skill.

Uniqueness within................ But hammered always!!!

  Once there was water bearer in a village. He was to put the water to his boss who lived bit far from the water place. His duty was to get water in the two earthen pots tied at the end of a sticks which he used to put on his shoulders and carry for the boss. But there was the problem... one of the pot had crack and water used to drip out of the pot, and till he reached his boss house it used to be almost the half. So the bearer was able to pour only one and half pot of water to his boss.
          The days started rolling the same way , but among this the cracked pot was very sad, bcoz it was not able to give its 100% to bearer.Looking at the other pot it felt really bad.It was very sad and decided to talk with the bearer one day.

          Hello sir, "I am very sad that i unable to give my best as my friend. How are u going to do with this. U will be able to put only one and half pots of water."
            The bearer replied "Hey don't be so. Just watch on your side during or work tomorrow, will talk of it tomorrow."

        The next day started as usual and the bearer took the pots on the sides of his shoulders and started walking. The cracked pot started looking at its side and tickling its head. but it couldn't find any thing new.... it was routine. They returned back and the cracked pot thought of talking again.
 

     Hi sir,"I didn't find any thing new today. Right from the start till the end kept looking at my side but i couldn't            find anything new."
         The bearer replied    "omg!! u didn't watch any thing   

 new. Okay let me tell you. On the way of your  side i have planted the beautiful forest flowers, which you will be watering daily. Where as the way on your friends side is barren. I take flowers daily to decorate my boss's house. He will be happy with  the wild fragrance of forest flowers and will give extra tips for the same.

 I owe u all my extra earnings ." 

         Hearing to the boss the pot stood mum for a minute and really felt very bad for symphatizing herself. It started feeling proud of itself for being "Cracked".

       Friends this happens in our day to day life. Why we always start hammering our difference with other, where infact the differences are the one which make us unique and give us the identity of being me.

        So life is like a play, a very strong play where all the characters are unique within them, and all the characters are assigned to right people. No one can ever think of replacing other, Bcoz each one is unique. So do respect the uniqueness.
                                    
         

Self-satisfaction : The ultimate goal

The most rare thing seen in this world??- if this is the question to be asked then nothing can better suit or take the place as "Self-satisfaction".

        Friends go back to your very early days when u were a baby, you had nothing with you no friends, no knowledge of how to keep yourself, not aware of what you want ,what you dont want, all on dependency but still u were happy, you had the power to make yourself happy which surely you wont now, you were so content full that time right?? But now you have money, u have friends, u have no that dependencies, you have all the facilities to lead a perfect life but still life is not perfect, you are not happy with yourself, you have no power now to make yourself happy, no contentment na?? why friends where is it going wrong. See in your childhood days you will be sitting outside in the mud and playing with mud, eating mud and even infact throwing stones , while doing it you will so dam happy right, but the moment mom sees you "No beta u should not do this, its not gud........" , the contentment and the happiness is lost. But i don't mean mom was wrong. She was right and always will be ....... a part  of it was lost in understanding what is right and what is wrong. But after knowing what is right where the hell is remaining thing going wrong. I reason out that it may be because of not making the research on reason of our birth and  lack of intrinsic motivation.

          Once there was the huge family of crows living happily on the huge banyan trees in the thick forest. Among them two of the crows were waiting for their baby to hatch out of the egg. And very soon they got the new member in their family. And these mother and father used to leave the young one in the nest and go for hunting food, during that time a flock of peacocks used to come there for their hunt and used to enjoy dancing in the rain by opening their long beautiful feathers. The young crow daily used to wait desperately for peacocks. The crow started going mad of peacocks. It slowing started developing the feeling  that i should also luk like them.  And one day it told its mom regarding the same, but the mom said "the way we are, we are gud". But the baby crow was not in a state to listen. The next day when the peacocks were back to their homes after enjoyment,  the baby crow went and collected the handful of beautiful peacock feathers which fall off from the dancing peacocks. Then next day when the peacocks were there, the baby crow pricked the feathers  into its feather  and joined the group of peacock. The peacocks were happy seeing that, because they taught it was the gud chance to laugh on crows, so peacocks told the baby crow that it was looking very beautiful that too much more than them. The baby crow was very happy. Once the elder crow returned, the baby crow told that hence forth it will join the peacocks and it cant stay with black people. The peacocks laughed at the crows like anything. And the baby crow went with them. The crow family was very sad and were also in a guilt of having such a kid. The sorrow days of crows started rolling down, after few days they saw the baby crow walking back to their place alone!!!!. The baby crow was trembling with no energy to stand, as the peacocks found their food  alone and had alone. They didn't share the food with all as crows did. And the baby crow was not at all familiar with finding food. The mother crow hugged the baby crow and made it settle down. That day the baby crow came to know the worth of being crow and also the worth of being peacock.

             Hmmm this is what called as intrinsic motivation. It is motivation of oneself for being satisfied with what they are. The same happens in our life friends. Take the simple example when u buy a new dress, u r very happy and wear it to office, and to your dam surprise your colleague is also wearing the new dress. Her dress looks much pretty for u than yours. And start cursing yourself for not having that. But in that situation why to depress the feeling of "i am wearing a new dress which i like". why the hell we always keep on solving problem rather than celebrating the achievements.

             Let me take the other most common situation, the boy very keen and well interested in  playing cricket but still they are made to opt for a gud software engineer role, just because its secure, just because the people around him want to see him in that place. Its fine that the job makes your life secure. But opting that job at the cost of  one s happiness, one s satisfaction, one s contentment is not at all worth friends. Do something which makes you happy. Do something which make you live your life. choosing the job which u like to do is not selfishness, its self-satisfaction. Don't be want others want you to be in life, be want you want to be.

              Life is unpredictable and complicated too with ups and down. And this creates lots of instability among oneself.The only way to maintain composure is by seeking and eventually achieving self-satisfaction.

  

Will

               Once there was the community of frogs living happily altogether in families. And as in our human community, the risky bike race held in colleges, a very similar kind of race was held between them .The thing was that the frogs have to reach the top of the steep hill and make their community flag flew on top of hill,which was nothing less than the guniess world records. The hill was thorny and rocked. It was very risky. And atlast the day race arrived.  On that day almost 30,000 frogs have registered for the race.At the start all the 30,000 frogs were high on heels and were breathing heavily to start the game. All the mom and dad frogs were standing beside the race track with the great fear about the lives of their children. and the game started. after certain interval of time,  due to sudden increase in the steepness of the hill about 700 frogs rolled down the hill. some got very deep cut and wound in their boady parts and some of them were in very critical condition. All the parents became very much worried of  their children. All the parents started yelling for their children, that "no need of race get back"."u will loose your life get back" ........................... some of the frogs gave up hearing their parents. But some still continued, and the steepness increased and had got the curve in the hill due to which some again rolled back and put their lives in risk.Again the loud of parents started yelling out saying "children come down its enough now". See some frogs down some got fear and quit the game. And at the end of the game a very risky stage, there were about 10 frogs left out, out which some rolled back and some started hearing their parents but out of 10, 1 did it. And the frog which did that was came to be known atlast as deaf and dumb frog and coudnt hear anybody over there. Some times the disadvantages become advantages right??. But the thing to be taken in mind is the will power of the only frog among 30000. Though its deafness and dumbness added up to build its power. It was its will power which took it there.
             When once the matter of u achieving your goal comes in mind, its all the action of will power which takes u till your success.Once you throw yourself in the volly of aims... neither the situation matter, nor the opposition, nor the hindrance matter, the only thing that is going to matter is the tip of the success and the kind of inspirational feeling within you saying "I Dare" nothing but the so called "will". Once u get into your aim your "I Dare" feeling will make you deaf and dumb towards the oppositions. And puts on the craze within you of achieving and experiencing the heaven.
             But the invoking of will is done by understanding where your success lies..... the success may be in completing the particular task at the end of the day, it may be killing a person or it may be waking up at 6 in the morning...........  in simple sense to become successful doesnt mean u need to aim to become Indira Gandhi. Anything which u wish, aspire, and get it done is a success weather it may be sketching a picture or giving up cigarette.
           Even in our kg class story of rabbit and turtle rather than physical strength it was the strength of will which won at last. Know where actually your success lies, and win the success with will, Because "where there is  a will there is a way"
     

Being Optimistic........

Optimistic, very complicated word right?? But has the power of making your life take a smart U turn. For which the thing to be done is its implementation. Optimist ism is not of whats happening in your life buts its all about what can happen in your life. Its all about a half filled glass and not about half empty glass.Its of you being a cause and not being a effect. Its not about  the darkness in the tunnel but its all about light at the end of tunnel. The pessimist always think of what worst can happen and spend all of the energy in negative things instead of shifting the focus on what good can happen which in turn will make miss opportunity, neglect the problems to be solved and make u fail to take actions at right time. Ideally speaking nobody is idol in being optimistic and nobody is born optimistic, its all of developing within you an optimistic person.
       So its the right time to give thought on why we all lean more towards pessimism. My research says there may be two things---------
1. Either your mates, whether it may be parents,fiends, brother, sister any one who always make you do think in that direction.
2. your past history
      You can over come from first thing, but for that identification of that element is very important and then after hear for them but never listen. I don't mean your mates are misguiding you but it happens because of the habitual gaps.
     Second thing is,the past negative experiences would have left never heeling mark on your life, which always come into picture in every situation and its quite human. So its high time to think that all times are not same. Just because you have experienced pain in past it doesn't mean what starts badly must end up bad.
     Once there was a German badminton player it seems, i too exactly don't remember his name. A very confident,successful, inspirational player counted in tops. He was swinging in melody of peace,With success in one hand and peaceful life in other. Days passed on and at last he had a black day of his life, he got a positive result for his cancer tests. The moment was just like pulling the earth beneath his legs. He was smashed like anything.But within the splash of time he was back with the same confidence knowing that the time left with him was hardly a year.And in one of his interview when symphatized by journalist telling "God wouldn't have done this to u" and his only response was "whenever i have held my trophies in hand, have never asked god "why trophy only for me??" so today have no right to ask "why Cancer only for me??"".Hmmm great man right?? He was not great by birth, he was not that great as badminton player but he is great by his great response and his great attitude. This is Optimist ism.
      As this is the talk on being optimistic, i wont be doing judgement to the topic if i wont remember my grandpa here. He was very bold ,strong and a very gud leader within himself.One day unfortunately even he was detected with cancer, trust me when people came to see him at the hospital for first time in guilt, he has made them walk back laughing. And after this he was suggested a surgery. And he was taken to one of the top hospital in mumbai only with my dad,and atlast it was a day of surgery, there was Q for surgery. He was in third turn to get operated, Before him was a lady, who was very sturdy and walking healthy in front of the operation theatre for her turn. Her turn came and was taken in and within an hour her dead body was out. My dad trembled out in sweat (He still keeps on remembering this), he felt like taking my grannpa and running out. When he said the same to grandpa he laughed and went in, got operated and then after survived for 7 long years.Though it was his boldness which took him in, it is optimist ism within him which made him survive for 7 long years. So this post is dedicated to him.
     The only thing i want to tell is when u start feeling down about future, remember life is too short,and pessimism broods nothing other than waste of time. I don't tell u think that always gud vl happen so that others take advantage of u but instead be a rational optimist. Take gud with bad. Hope for best but be prepared for worst.
    

Frndship

               The only relation which we choose(not god made), the only relation found in every other relation. Which starts just with the simple hiii and ends with zero selfishness. Frnd!!!! the only one with whom u can share everything which sometimes even u cannot with your parents, the only one to enjoy icecream infront of u when ur on sick bed, the only one who says "where s the treat" when u say "i am going to die" . But still the first to hold hand when walking alone in crowd, the only one on whom u can belive closing your eyes.  So sometimes i feel we people have beaten up god in choosing and making relations wont u??
              The things like treats, b'day parties, b'day bumbs, gossips, first show movies with popcrons, silly fights with attitude for flawless things, silly cries with loud laughters, tours and trips contribute a lot to keep it lively.Feels great right when we contribute as somebodys frnd,or even when we have frnd.
              Know these days frnds list will be increasing day by day. we should see in facebook, omg!!!! the number tho goes beyond 1000........... But tell me  seriously frnds, how many frnds do u have so that u can put hand on your heart and tell yourself proudly that"This is my frnd"??? if in your answer you have a single person also, then trust me frndz u have lived your life. But my frndz on other side whose answer is zero, this is dedicated u all, and belive me i am one among ur team. And this idea kicked in me while watching the climax of "3 iditos", seeing farhan and raju kicking aamir at last..... really bought a feeling in me "wish if i had a frnd like this....."
             So its right time to think, what and where is it going wrong. Are we so bad and others are too gud, or is it vice versa that we are too gud and others are too bad.Ha is it so?? No its not the thing.
             Once there was a geograhy class going on in first standard.First day first lesson on geography,as usual the world map was on board. All students very egarly staring at the board. Mam introduced all the parts as much a she can. And later it was time to end the class. Before ending she announced that they are going have puzzle test tomorrow at same time on what they have studied. All students went home, and tried their best to remember the outline of the world atleast.(u people dont get panic as they are first standard students they did it, later when they reach college they did the same as us). Hmmm next day morning asusual the class started,teacher came in and it was now puzzle time. She gave each student a box with broken pieces of paper.Told them they have pieces of world map and start rearranging. All very enthusiatically started, but everybody ended in nothing, all started luking at each other with mum faces. Mam was still quite. But something happend, the paper pieces of a student flew away bcoz of air, he went and started collecting them, while collecting he observed that there were some pictures of the boady parts of the man at the back side of the pieces. He started arranging them and brought out a man out of those pieces. And when he turned out the arranged pieces upside down, It was very correctly arranged world map. He was happy like anything.Now the mam interrupted, "see students this was not only a puzzle but want to teach u basic lesson, can anybody tell what did u learn??". No body answered... And the moral of the story was "IF U ARE PERFECT, WORLD IS PERFECT" as simple as that
           So if u are good world is good, if u are bad world is bad.
Never expect your frnd to be same as you bcoz its as gud as expecting to hold your frnds right hand in your right hand and walking together which is never possible.
Never expect your frnd to be Mr/Miss perfect, instead make him/her Mr/Miss perfect.
          Naturally or basically your frnd may not be of your type, his likes may be your dislikes, but nothing worng in having him as frnd. Have them as a frnd, trust them once, they will trust you forever.But always have a frnd in such way who proudly says "he/she is dam boring and yuky but still she is my frnd" i mean who accepts u along with your weakness and  strength.
         One more thing to strengthen the life of ur frndship, always share your frnds strength infront of others but weakness only with that individual frnd.
Accept the way you are,love  yourself for whatever you are and most importantly accept your frnds the way they are, and have frnds forever..................

Miracle of Encouragement

          Encouragement!!! what miracle it can do?? A lot my friends.Skill without encouragement is like plant without water.Encouragement can make your skill propell with great thrust and reach u out beyond boundaries.Let me begin with a simple thing, imagine school days probability problem or the problem on statistics(They really troubled a lot na... ...) but still if u solve a problem and the teacher gives pat on your back just saying "well done",belive me,it has the power of making probability
and statistics as your favourite subject. I dunno how many how many of u agree....Now why this happens or how this happens is the question. The pat that teacher gave you makes many things like-
*It creates a confidence in u that you know something(not much) about the subject.Once u gain the belief that u know something, more than half of the problem is solved.
* The confidence that i was the one who answered among whole class intacts tremendous Energy!!!!!!!
*It creates a kind of rep in class that,when the teacher gives next problem, even he will be egarly waiting at u,that u will do it.And to stay at his expectations you will
 definately do it.
        Lets come out of the school days,lets luk at the facebook, on the single post we make,we open the same post or the scrap or the snap thousand times to track the record of the likes and the comments.Is it we do that simply?God only knows how many have become the designer,the writer,the photographer just bcoz of the likes and comments in the facebook .if this is the case why the hell we take so much of time to appreciate others. The only thing  want to tell is always be the first to
appreciate others and automatically you will be appreciated at right times.It not even takes the single penny just to say-"nice dress ","gud handwritting","luking gud", "well done","keep it up"..................These appear silly but they do lot.
        In my neighbour i had a small Lkg  girl.she was dumb like anything that u cant imagine.But one day i heard her dad telling to her while taking her studies"we all spell it as "A(ye) car" but you spell it as "A(a) car" and this is most the positive thing in u.And today i am seeing that girl as the editor
in the very renouned company(And she remembers her dad's words as the words for her success).There is no limit to the level you can go down to encourage others.
        So wether it may be sharuk  or the common lay man everybody needs encouragement in whatever they do.... Shaan and sunidhi got such huge positive response for their first albums now noboby can hold them.There are countless people who have come up without any encouragement.But the thing to understand is encouragement acts like a catalyst in the chemical solution called life.It accelerates the speed of you going into the success.So always be the first to encourage others and also first to take the encouragement from others and watch for the Miracle within u.